‘A host to healing and a spot of hurt’: on punishment and attack in the community that is BDSM

‘A host to healing and a spot of hurt’: on punishment and attack in the community that is BDSM

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Content caution: Contains explicit content and recommendations to intimate attack and rape, that might be triggering to survivors.

I recently had the essential conversation that is uncomfortable my mum about some handcuffs she discovered under my bed which I’d kept there by accident. To be precise, exactly just exactly exactly what she discovered weren’t handcuffs but shackles I’ve useful for hog people that are tying. I made the decision against pointing this away because: embarrassing as fuck. I’m simply therefore happy she missed the ball gag while the pet o’ nine tails I’d additionally left underneath the sleep.

I’m yes my mum noticed the appearance of horror back at my face nonetheless it didn’t stop her from saying, “I know you’re into BDSM and that is fine. You really need to do why is you delighted.”

Oh. My. Jesus. We almost passed away. Despite being utterly mortified that my mum had simply purchased up my participation in a scene/subculture considered by many people as deviant and deranged (and much more misinterpreted than in the past as a result of 50 tones of Grey), we resisted the desire to shut the discussion down. Rather I shared with her the reason that is initial I experienced gotten into BDSM ended up being that the cornerstones of kink tradition are supposed to be: Safe, Sound and Consensual.

My involvement in BDSM goes much deeper compared to the description we offered my mum.

I’ve constantly sensed i really could have significantly more agency that is sexual a girl in the kinkster community than in wider main-stream sex tradition. Continue reading “‘A host to healing and a spot of hurt’: on punishment and attack in the community that is BDSM”